Friendship

I have a few people who I consider true friends they are the people I would do anything for them and thier families. But it feels sometimes I am the friend that its ok to be the friend but it's not ok if I'm the friend who is willing to do other things for the family, see let me explain one day I said to a friend why dont I watch the kids for you and the wife, His reply was simple and direct not meant to hurt my feelings but he said to me ya don't take this wrong but there is no way ever the wife will ever let you watch the kids. Now I don't know how else to take it's one of those things that make me think ok your a friend Ivan but not that friend who we trust with kids and the funny thing is my two kids have turned out ok (atleast I belive they have). Its becoming clearer to me as the years go bye maybe I have made the wrong choices with my life more often than not. I now have the wisdom to move past the little things people say about me but I still have feelings even if I do hide who I am .